Monday, January 26, 2009

Ok, here's the deal.


You know who you are.

You are the one who has stomped all over my friend's heart and I.AM.PISSED.

I stood up for you both at your wedding.

I babysat your animals when you took her away for anniversary weekends.

I was there when she pee'd on the stick and that stick turned blue.

I was there with you both when you were in the delivery room. And I held her hand when tears were trickling down her face out of nerves, excitement and joy. And i laughed at her when I asked her if she was ok and she said no, she was scared to death of having the baby and she had to poop.

I feel it only fair to tell you that I am STILL THAT friend.

But now, I'm the one who's going to take her to her divorce attorney interviews.

The one who will take her to the bank and force her to move her money into a sole account and move her direct deposit over.

I am the one who will continue to pick up the phone every time she calls crying, screaming, breaking down because you betrayed her.

I will open my heart and my home for her when she feels like she wants to give up.

I will agree with her when she says you were a good guy and she still loves you and I will comfort her when she screams that you should go to hell. Right now i agree with both.

You were that friend, or half of the couple, who were at our wedding.

You were the one who videotaped Walker's first few hours on this earth in the hospital nursery because you knew I was recovering from a c-section and his dad couldn't work the video camera.

You were the one who remained a friend when i had to leave your college roommate because it just wasn't working.

You were the one who invited me over to your home on my birthday - the first one after the divorce - because you didn't want me and the kids to be alone or sad.

You WERE THAT friend.


Think about her. Think about what you're doing. PLEASE. Your family needs you. Your wife needs you. And whether you realize it now or not, you need her.

Be THAT man, ok?


Diva Ma said...

WOW. That's serious. Now whoever you are, asshole, BE THAT MAN!

rebecca said...

All I can say is WOW! Good for you for writing this....and in this way, honoring and believing in both. Now, let's hope he steps up to the plate.

Amy @ Milk Breath and Margaritas said...

Oh wow. I'm so sorry for your friend. I hope it works out the best way for everyone.

Good post - you said it well.

America's Next Top Mommy said...

You're a great friend!